Yes, I know, its quite a question. But one that I was taught, when training as a family mediator to ask parents who are locked into high-conflict, angry battles with each other and who seem to want to fight "to the death".

But its a powerful thing to ask a couple, and one which might help them to stop, take a breath, and think about how they might want their children to experience the ending of their parents' marriage or relationship.

After all, their role as lovers, spouses, partners, friends, may all be at an end, but the job of being parents to the children of that relationship is not. Parenting a child together can be hard, we all know that, but doing so whilst in turbulent conflict with that person is a near impossible task. And the victims will inevitably be the children who are caught in the crossfire of the fight. Research has repeatedly told us that children can weather pretty well the separation of their parents but only if they are not exposed to prolonged conflict.

Yahoo News, in an article this week reporting on the high profile upcoming divorce of this celebrity couple, is considering the impact of conflict on a child's mental health : Counselling Directory member Beverley Blackman shares some excellent tips on how such damage may be avoided. With the latest ONS statistics suggesting an increase in divorces again in the UK, and anecdotal evidence pointing to an imminent surge in break-ups as we finally exit lockdown, this is a very timely read.