A great blog on the goodmenproject website today, "How Long Will It Take To Get Over Your Divorce?".

Its quite a question, and one I am asked not infrequently. To my relief, the writer Dr Karen Finn, a divorce coach,offers no magic formula but basically says:  it takes as long as it takes. What she identifies are a number of strategies that can be adopted to ease and speed the process. 

There can be little doubt that divorce is a tough process for everyone who goes through it, no matter how keen they are for their marriage to end. Finding ways of building resilience as the process moves through its various stages can definitely help. In other words, you may not be able to make the procedure very much easier, but you can adopt strategies to strengthen your ability to cope with what's being thrown at you.

Whilst my role as a divorce lawyer may on paper appear only to be to to deal with the legal aspects of a marital dissolution, the reality is very different. I certainly see an integral part of all that I do as getting my clients through to the 'other side' in all senses: legally, financially and emotionally. I know that when I close my file, my clients can't just close theirs. They still have to live their lives, they still have to parent their children, they still have to be a family, albeit in a restructured way...and that all takes strength, purpose and optimism. If my clients leave my care in good shape to do so, I feel I've done my job.