When it comes to arrangements for children after separation, Courts should be avoided if at all possible. 

Sometimes it is possible for parents to make arrangements for the children direct between them.  If this is difficult (which is very understandable after separation), I would recommend parents find out whether Family Mediation might be appropriate for them.  Family Mediation offers parents an opportunity to sit down together with a trained Mediator to make these very important decisions about the future of their family. A good Family Mediator will provide lots of information, and help parents set aside their emotions, to focus on what is best for their children. 

If decisions cannot be made, and a Court is asked to decide, the Court process and the outcome can often be disappointing for parents. And, unfortunately things can get dirty.  How much time a parent will spend with their children will be down to one Judge on one day.  A risky business, which can perhaps inevitably and understandably lead to parents saying negative things about each other. This can be difficult for parents to come back from in the future, and conflict between parents is one of the most detrimental things to children when their parents separate. 

In my opinion, Family Mediation is therefore always worth considering.  Please call me if you would like to discuss whether Family Mediation might be a good option for you.