Hidden amongst the gossip and glamorous photos is an inspiring message here: 'we may be apart but in the raising of our children: we're together'. Hot on the heels of Gwyneth Paltow's 'conscious uncoupling, Jen and Ben are sharing what is a growing trend of parents, namely to have the confidence to know that they, and not the courts, are the right people to make decisions for their children. Here in the UK, the recently launched online tool ParentPlan is helping parents who are apart to plan and communicate better, keeping the focus on the children rather than the divorce